Rules for Mother’s with Daughters

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I have so many pictures and a long post about Easter that I keep putting off because I am so distracted by other things…. like Pinterest. 
I ran across a pin that sent me a blogger, Diapers & Daisies who did this
Rules with Daughter’s post!  I felt certain I should set aside my post about Easter and write a post about my girls.  Next I need to do this for Mom’s of Son’s where the author for D&D got her idea in the first place!

{Rules for Mothers of Daughters}

1. Paint her nails. Then let her scratch it off and dirty them up. Teach her to care about her appearance, and then quickly remind her that living and having fun is most important. {And don’t make fun of Mommy’s paint jobs}
 
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2. Let her put on your makeup, even if it means bright-red-smudged lips and streaked-blue eyes. Let her experiment in her attempts to be like you…then let her be herself.
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3. Let her be wild. She may want to stay home and read books on the couch, or she may want to hop on the back of a motorcycle-gasp. She may be a homebody or a traveler. She may fall in love with the wrong boy, or meet Mr. Right at age 5. Try to remember that you were her age once. Everyone makes mistakes, let her make her own.
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4. Be present. Be there for her at her Kindergarten performances, her dance recitals, her soccer games…her everyday-little-moments. When she looks through the crowds of people, she will be looking for your smile and pride. Show it to her as often as possible.
 
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5. Encourage her to try on your shoes and play dress-up. If she would rather wear her brother’s superman cape with high heals, allow it. If she wants to wear a tutu or dinosaur costume to the grocery store, why stop her? She needs to decide who she is and be confident in her decision.
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6. Teach her to be independent. Show her by example that woman can be strong. Find and follow your own passions. Search for outlets of expression and enjoyment for yourself- not just your husband or children.  Define yourself by your own attributes, not by what others expect you to be. Know who you are as a person, and help your daughter find out who she is.
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7. Pick flowers with her. Put them in her hair. There is nothing more beautiful than a girl and a flower.
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8. Let her get messy. Get messy with her, no matter how much it makes you cringe inside. Splash in the puddles, throw snowballs, make mud pies, finger paint the walls: just let it happen. The most wonderful of memories are often the messy ones.
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9. Give her good role models- you being one of them. Introduce her to successful woman- friends, co-workers, doctors, astronauts, or authors.  Read to her about influential woman- Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Marie Curie. Read her the words of inspirational woman- Jane Austen, Sylvia Plath, Emily Dickinson. She should know that anything is possible.

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10. Show her affection. Daughters will mimic the compassion of their mother. “I love you’s” and Eskimo kisses go a long way.
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11. Hold her hand. Whether she is 3 years-old in the parking lot or sixteen years old in the mall, hold on to her always- this will teach her to be confident in herself and proud of her family.

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12. Believe in her. It is the moments that she does not believe in herself that she will need you to believe enough for both of you. Whether it is a spelling test in the first grade, a big game or recital, a first date, or the first day of college…remind her of the independent and capable woman you have taught her to be.
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13. Tell her how beautiful she is. Whether it is her first day of Kindergarten, immediately after a soccer game where she is grass-stained and sweaty, or her wedding day. She needs your reminders. She needs your pride. She needs your reassurance. She is only human.
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14. Love her father. Teach her to love a good man, like him. One who lets her be herself…she is after all wonderful.
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15. Make forts with boxes and blankets. Help her to find magic in the ordinary, to imagine, to create and to believe in fairy tales. Someday she will make her 5 by 5 dorm-room her home with magic touches and inspiration. And she will fall in love with a boy and believe him to be Prince Charming.
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16. Read to her. Read her Dr. Seuss and Eric Carle. But also remember the power of Sylvia Plath and Robert Frost. Show her the beauty of words on a page and let her see you enjoy them. Words can be simply written and simply spoken, yet can harvest so much meaning. Help her to find their meaning.
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17. Teach her how to love- with passion and kisses. Love her passionately. Love her father passionately and her siblings passionately. Express your love. Show her how to love with no restraint. Let her get her heart broken and try again. Let her cry, and gush, giggle and scream. She will love like you love or hate like you hate. So, choose love for both you and her.
 
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18. Encourage her to dance and sing. Dance and sing with her- even if it sounds or looks horrible.  Let her wiggle to nursery rhymes. Let her dance on her daddy's feet and spin in your arms. Then later, let her blast noise and headbang in her bedroom with her door shut if she wants.
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19. Share secrets together. Communicate. Talk. Talk about anything. Let her tell you about boys, friends, school. Listen. Ask questions. Share dreams, hopes, concerns. She is not only your daughter, you are not only her mother. Be her friend too.
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20. Teach her manners. Because sometimes you have to be her mother, not just her friend. The world is a happier place when made up of polite words and smiles.
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21. Teach her when to stand-up and when to walk away. Also make sure she knows which battles are worth fighting. Remind her that some people can be mean and nasty because of jealousy, or other personal reasons. Teach her to be the better person.IMG_2123
22. Let her choose who she loves. Even when you see through the charming boy she thinks he is, let her love him without your disapproving words: she will anyway. When he breaks her heart, be there for her with words of support rather than I told-you-so. Let her mess up again and again until she finds the one. And when she finds the one, tell her.
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23. Mother her. Being a mother—to her—is undoubtedly one of your greatest accomplishments. Share with her the joys of motherhood, so one day she will want to be a mother too. Remind her over and over again with words and kisses that no one will ever love her like you love her. No one can replace or replicate a mother’s love for their children.
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24. Comfort her. Because sometimes you just need your mommy. When she is sick, rub her back, make her soup and cover her in blankets- no matter how old she is. Someday, if she is giving birth to her own child, push her hair out of her face, encourage her, and tell her how beautiful she is. These are the moments she will remember you for. And someday when her husband rubs her back in attempt to comfort her...she may just whisper, "I need my mommy."
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25. Be home. When she is sick with a cold or broken heart, she will come to you: welcome her. When she is engaged or pregnant, she will run to you to share her news: embrace her. When she is lost or confused, she will search for you: find her. When she needs advice on boys, schools, friends or an outfit: tell her. She is your daughter and will always need a safe harbor- where she can turn a key to see comforting eyes and a familiar smile: be home.
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{most all of these words were used from Diapers & Daisies.  I used my own photos from random times in Reese or Rayne’s life}

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10 comments:

becca said...

aw loved this and great set of rules

Sarah Kate said...

What a beautiful post!!! There is definitely a special sort of bond between a mother and her daughter (I'm sure there is with sons, too, I just wouldn't know!) and I think this post describes that connection well! I loved the pictures, too!

Connie Weiss said...

I love number 14!

Jessica said...

Beautiful!!! May have gotten a bit teary. I'm gonna forward this post to my SIL. :)

Have a great weekend! HUGS!!

Impulsive Addict said...

WOW! This was an amazing post! I love it. I got a little teary eyed! I love the bond that Emma and I have. Great pics that you included too.

HAPPY FRIDAY!

Stacie said...

You have truly been blessed with 2 beautiful girls. And they are pretty lucky to have you, too!

Date Girl said...

These pictures are precious and those words...that described my childhood. I cried! I hope I have a girl someday so I can do everything on that list for her. I love this!!

Four Marrs and One Venus said...

Love this Janette! Such a great post! Each picture is so sweet. No girls for me... but I can do that all with my boys no doubt! Thanks for this today!

Haley said...

Absolutely loved this! I cannot wait to be a mother someday:)

Tara said...

What a sweet post...love it :)

 
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